Working With Wrongful Death Clients & Hearing About GriefShare
Attorney Christina meets with widows and other family members who are left behind after a death. A few of them have shared the types of groups they found helpful after experiencing this type of loss. The group discussed below was mentioned a lot and is based upon faith. It is a group that would probably welcome someone from a different faith as well. If this does not align with your faith, continue to search for a group. If you come across a great group that you would like to recommend, please reach out to us.
Build A Support Team After a Death
Don’t try to go through the grieving process alone. Link up with a GriefShare grief recovery support group. It’s a place where you’ll find caring people who understand the issues you face. GriefShare Group Finder will help you locate a group meeting near you.
Find a Grief Share Group
It may be hard for you to feel optimistic about the future right now. If you’ve lost a spouse, child, family member, or friend, you’ve probably found there are not many people who understand the deep hurt you feel.
This can be a confusing time when you feel isolated and have many questions about things you’ve never faced before.
Find a Grief Share Group at www.griefshare.org
What is GriefShare?
GriefShare seminars and support groups are led by people who understand what you are going through and want to help. You’ll gain access to valuable GriefShare resources to help you recover from your loss and look forward to rebuilding your life. There are thousands of GriefShare grief recovery support groups meeting throughout the US, Canada, and in over 10 other countries. There’s one meeting near you!
Daily Email Encouragement From Grief Share
Receive an encouraging email message every day for a year. These short messages will inspire you and provide practical information as you grieve the loss of your loved one. Sign up for the GriefShare daily emails.
GriefShare Video Seminars with Experts
Each week your GriefShare group will watch a video seminar featuring top experts on grief and recovery subjects. These videos are produced in an interesting television magazine format featuring expert interviews, real-life case studies, dramatic reenactments, and on-location video.
GriefShare Support Group Discussion with Focus
After viewing the video, you and the other group members will spend time as a support group, discussing what was presented in that week’s video seminar and what is going on in your lives.
GriefShare Personal study and reflection
During the week you will have the opportunity to use your workbook for further personal study of the grieving process and to help sort out your emotions through journaling. Your group will spend time discussing questions and comments from the workbook study.
GriefShare: Who should come & who should not
GriefShare is for people grieving the death of a family member or friend. We understand that there are other losses in life that create feelings of grief. You might be experiencing a job loss, a divorce, estrangement from a child, or the loss of friends because of a move. This grief is real, but it is not the kind of grief discussed in GriefShare sessions. We encourage you to ask a pastor, counselor, or church leader for help in finding resources that will be of specific help in your situation. If you are going through separation or divorce, please consider participating in a DivorceCare program.
GriefShare: When to Join
You are welcome to begin attending the GriefShare group at any session. Each is “self-contained,” so you do not have to attend in sequence. You will find encouragement and help whenever you begin. You will be able to continue with GriefShare through the next 13-week cycle and view any of the videos you have not seen.
Being a part of a GriefShare grief recovery support group
“I’ve never been to a support group like this before. I don’t know what to expect.”
Most people quickly feel comfortable and accepted in their GriefShare group. They discover there are others who have the same kind of feelings they do and who understand the hurt they feel and the loss they have experienced. Here is an overview of the GriefShare experience:
You’ll probably feel a little nervous about going to GriefShare the first time. Those feelings go away quickly for most people, usually during the first session they attend. GriefShare is a warm, caring environment designed to help you.
You’ll discover there are people who understand your hurts, emotions, and painful experiences! When someone you love dies, it’s common to feel isolated. In GriefShare, you’ll find that you are not alone, that there are others who understand what you are going through.
You’ll learn helpful, practical information that will help you recover from the pain of grief and loss. The GriefShare DVD videos feature top experts on grief recovery subjects and case studies of people just like you, who have been through the grief experience.
You’ll have the chance to talk about your experiences. It can be very healing to tell others what you are going through. The support group sessions include a time to talk about what you’ve seen on the GriefShare videos and what is going on in your life. And while you have the opportunity to tell your story, there’s never pressure for you to do so if you don’t feel like it.
You’ll have a workbook for personal study and to write down things you’ve learned. The workbook provides opportunity for further study about the grief process and personal reflection about your grief. The weekly journaling questions help you sort through your emotions. You can tear out and carry with you the perforated “Care Cards” for words of encouragement during the lowest points of your day.
You’ll begin to gain closure in your loss. It’s sometimes hard to move on in life when you are still dealing with the grief and emptiness that happens after a loved one dies. You’ll learn how to go through a healthy season of grieving, then begin transitioning to emotional and spiritual wholeness. We call this “your journey from mourning to joy.”
You’ll become part of a “family.” GriefShare group members often tell us that they feel like their group has become a family, that they made new friends and are around people they can relate to.
You’ll discover hope for the future. While things may look bleak now, you’ll learn ways to restore your hope and rebuild your life. Many GriefShare alumni tell us the program helped them move from deep grief to peace and a sense of joy again.
GriefShare Group Leadership
The leadership team for GriefShare consists of people who understand how you feel and have a real concern for individuals experiencing the grief of loss. Most GriefShare leaders have experienced significant losses in their lives and are examples of the healing and restoration that can occur as an outgrowth of deep grief. Healing from your grief is not easy. It’s a long, sometimes painful process.
We want to help you on your journey toward recovery. Here are some suggestions that can make a big difference in your progress toward healing:
GriefShare Daily encouragement
Subscribe to “A Season of Grief,” the free daily email messages designed to encourage you. You’ll receive 365 uplifting messages that will help guide you through the healing process.
God, What is Happening?
Death reminds us there is something terribly wrong with the world. Find out what it is, what God is doing to fix it, and how this can bring you hope and healing in God, What Is Going On?
GriefShare Personal study
GriefShare Help for the Journey section provides daily reading and exercises to help you dig deeper into the grief recovery process.
GriefShare Weekly session topics
Each week your group will watch a video seminar on DVD. The GriefShare videos cover topics essential to your recovery from the hurt of grief and loss. The videos are produced in a compelling television magazine format and feature interviews with grief recovery experts, mini-dramas, on-location video, and real-life stories of people who have experienced the death of a loved one.
GriefShare Weekly session videos
1. Is This Normal?
•You’ll discover why your grief experience is harder than you imagined
•Why the intensity and duration of your emotions are normal and appropriate
•Despite how you feel right now, there is reason for hope
2. Challenges of Grief
•You’ll learn more eye-opening reasons why your pain is so overwhelming
•Some of the overlooked, yet common, effects grief has on your mind, body, and spirit
•How to get things done when you don’t feel like you have any energy
3. The Journey of Grief – Part One
•You’ll learn helpful goals to set on your journey of grief
•How to deal with those who try to rush you through your grief
•How long the journey of grief typically lasts
4. The Journey of Grief – Part Two
•You’ll learn why it’s important to put effort into your healing
•How the events surrounding your loved one’s death affect your grief
•The best ways to deal with your loved one’s belongings
5. Grief and Your Relationships
•You’ll find out how the death of a loved one affects your friendships
•Why solitude can be a blessing and a curse
•How to deal with friends who don’t understand your grief
•This session demonstrates that God wants you to share your feelings with Him
•Why being honest with God is an expression of faith
•What God has to say to you about your “why” questions
7. Guilt and Anger
•You’ll learn how to deal with false guilt
•How to grieve conflicted relationships
•How to handle grief-related anger
8. Complicating Factors
•You’ll begin to see how traumatic experiences affect grief
•How to deal with nightmares and flashbacks
•How your thinking affects your emotions
•You’ll discover how to prevent getting stuck in grief
•Common misconceptions that hinder healing
•Why your path to healing isn’t always smooth
10. Lessons of Grief – Part One
•You’ll become aware of an often-overlooked reason that grief is so painful
•Why going to church can be so difficult
•The benefits of helping others
11. Lessons of Grief – Part Two
•This session provides a more complete picture of who you are now that your loved one is gone
•Why no one grieves perfectly
•What grief can teach you about relationships
•Session 12 answers questions about heaven and the afterlife, such as what heaven is like
•Whether you should communicate with your deceased loved one
•Whether near-death experiences are reliable descriptions of heaven
•And many more
13. What Do I Live for Now?
•You’ll learn why moving forward is a necessity
•Why it’s a process
•Why peace and pain will always coexist
GriefShare video seminars feature interviews with leading authors, counselors, speakers, and pastors with years of expertise in grief recovery.
Sabrina D. Black
Sabrina D. Black, author and speaker, is the CEO and clinical director of Abundant Life Counseling Center. She is a limited licensed professional counselor, certified addictions counselor, and certified biblical counselor. She experienced the death of multiple close relatives and the miscarriage of her baby. www.abundantlifecounseling.webs.com
Judy Blore was the director of BASIS, a ministry of Handi*Vangelism, for over twenty-two years, providing help for bereaved parents and their families in southeastern Pennsylvania. Judy experienced the death of her mother.
Dave Branon is an editor, a contributor to Our Daily Bread, and the author of many devotional articles and books. His book Beyond the Valley details his journey after the death of his seventeen-year-old daughter Melissa.
Dr. Bill Bright
The late Dr. Bill Bright was the founder and president of Campus Crusade for Christ. For over fifty years he dedicated his life to helping people find new life and hope through a relationship with Christ.
David Bueno Martin
David Bueno Martin is a bilingual counselor and supervisor at Martin Counseling in Katy, Texas. He also speaks at workshops and seminars. David experienced the loss of a child. www.martincounseling.com
Cindy Bultema is a speaker and Bible teacher. She shares her personal testimony in the DVD presentation He Loves Me. Cindy has experienced addiction and the death of her fiancé. www.cindybultema.com
Michael Card is a Bible teacher, musician, and author. He has recorded over thirty albums and authored/coauthored over twenty-four books, including A Sacred Sorrow. His best friend died. www.michaelcard.com
Carol Cornish is a counselor and teacher. She is the author of The Undistracted Widow: Living for God after Losing Your Husband. Carol is a regular speaker at seminars, workshops, and retreats. Her husband died of cancer.
Dr. Larry Crabb
Dr. Larry Crabb is a psychologist, conference and seminar speaker, Bible teacher, and author. He is the founder of New Way Ministries. His books include Shattered Dreams, Finding God, and The Safest Place on Earth. He experienced the death of his brother in a plane crash. www.newwayministries.org
Zoricelis Davila is a bilingual counselor and speaker. She has authored several Spanish books, including ¡No sé lo que me pasa! [I Don’t Know What Is Wrong with Me!]. Her dad died of cancer.
Dr. Robert DeVries
Dr. Robert DeVries is professor emeritus of church education at Calvin Theological Seminary. His first wife of twenty-eight years died of cancer. Now remarried to Dr. Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge, they work together to help people in grief and are coauthors of many books, including The Empty Chair: Handling Grief on Holidays and Special Occasions and From We to Me.
Joni Eareckson Tada
Joni Eareckson Tada is an author, artist, broadcaster, and the founder and president of Joni and Friends Ministries. Her books and ministry reflect her experience of God’s love and grace since becoming a quadriplegic in a diving accident years ago. She has written over fifty books, including Heaven and When God Weeps. www.joniandfriends.org
Sandy Elder is a biblical counselor with a master’s degree in religion from Westminster Theological Seminary. She presently counsels at New Life Presbyterian Church in Dresher, Pennsylvania, and has counseled five years with the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation in Laverock, Pennsylvania. She experienced the death of her parents.
Dr. Michael R. Emlet
Dr. Michael R. Emlet is a counselor at the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation (CCEF) in Glenside, Pennsylvania. Before joining CCEF, he worked as a family physician for twelve years. He has authored Angry Children (a booklet) and CrossTalk: Where Life & Scripture Meet. www.ccef.org
Elyse Fitzpatrick is a counselor and the director of Women Helping Women Ministries. She has authored/coauthored many books, including A Steadfast Heart: Experiencing God’s Comfort in Life’s Storms and Overcoming Fear, Worry, and Anxiety. www.elysefitzpatrick.com
Julie Ganschow is a counselor and teacher at Reigning Grace Counseling Center in Kansas City, Missouri. She has authored several books, including Seeing Depression Through the Eyes of Grace. She maintains a daily blog on counseling issues. Julie experienced the loss of her mother. www.biblicalcounselingforwomen.org
Ruth Graham is a speaker and Bible teacher. She is the founder and president of Ruth Graham Ministries. Her books include In Every Pew Sits a Broken Heart and Fear Not Tomorrow, God Is Already There. Her mother passed away. www.ruthgrahamministries.org
Anne Graham Lotz
Anne Graham Lotz is a speaker and the president of AnGeL Ministries. She hosts revivals and conferences across the United States. Her books include Why? Trusting God When You Don’t Understand, Heaven: My Father’s House, and The Vision of His Glory. Her brother-in-law and mother died. www.annegrahamlotz.com
Brad Hambrick is the pastor of counseling at The Summit Church in Durham, North Carolina. His books include God’s Attributes: Rest for Life’s Struggles. His grandfather passed away. www.bradhambrick.com
Hank Hanegraaff is the president and chairman of the board of the Christian Research Institute and hosts the daily radio program the Bible Answer Man. He has authored over twenty books, including AfterLife: What You Really Want to Know About Heaven and the Hereafter. His father died. www.hankhanegraaff.com
Dr. Jack Hayford
Dr. Jack Hayford is the founding pastor of The Church on the Way in Van Nuys, California. He has authored/coauthored over 100 books and has written over 600 songs. He is the founder and chancellor of The King’s University in Los Angeles. Dr. Hayford experienced the loss of his sister and his parents. www.jackhayford.org
Dr. E. V. Hill
The late Dr. E. V. Hill was the pastor at Mt. Zion Missionary Baptist Church in Los Angeles for over forty years. Dr. Hill experienced the death of his wife.
Dr. Avak Albert Howsepian
Dr. Avak Albert Howsepian is an assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco-Fresno, Medical Education Program, and a staff psychiatrist in the VA Mental Health Clinic.
The late Barbara Johnson was a humorous writer and speaker. Having lost two sons and her husband, she was involved in grief ministry. Her many books include Laughter from Heaven, Splashes of Joy in the Cesspools of Life, and God’s Most Precious Jewels Are Crystallized Tears.
Dr. Robert W. Kellemen
Dr. Robert W. Kellemen is a licensed clinical professional counselor. He is the founder and CEO of RPM Ministries. He has authored several books, including God’s Healing for Life’s Losses. As a young man in seminary, Dr. Kellemen experienced the death of his father. www.rpmministries.org
Dr. Crawford Loritts
Dr. Crawford Loritts is an author and the senior pastor of Fellowship Bible Church in Roswell, Georgia. He is a frequent speaker for evangelistic outreaches around the world, colleges, professional sports teams, and Christian conferences. His newborn daughter died.
Susan Lutz served as a counselor at the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation in Glenside, Pennsylvania, for over fifteen years. She now counsels at her church, New Life Presbyterian Church of Dresher. She authored the booklet Thankfulness: Even When It Hurts. Her parents passed away.
Dr. Erwin Lutzer
Dr. Erwin Lutzer is the senior pastor of the Moody Church in Chicago, Illinois. He has written over twenty books, including One Minute After You Die, and is the featured speaker on three radio programs heard on Christian stations nationwide. He experienced the loss of his granddaughter, who was stillborn.
Dr. Elias Moitinho
Dr. Elias Moitinho is the director of clinical training and an associate professor of counseling at Liberty University in Lynchburg, Virginia. He has years of experience serving as a pastor, counselor, professor, and the director of a Christian counseling center. His dad died of cancer.
Janet Paschal is a Christian singer and songwriter. She has received Grammy nominations, is a conference speaker, and has been a guest on Christian radio and television talk shows. She has authored The Good Road and Treasures of the Snow. Janet experienced the loss of her grandfather. www.janetpaschal.com
Lorraine Peterson, author of Restore My Soul, has been a teacher in the United States and in American schools in Ecuador and Mexico. Lorraine currently resides in Mexico, where she ministers to young people and those who have experienced the death of a loved one. Her mother and stepmother both died in car accidents.
Dr. David Powlison
Dr. David Powlison is a faculty member at the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation in Glenside, Pennsylvania. He has been counseling for over thirty years and has authored books, articles, and booklets, including Healing after Abortion and Facing Death with Hope: Living for What Lasts. www.ccef.org
Lois Rabey is a speaker and writer. She has authored several books, including When Your Soul Aches and Moments for Those Who Have Lost a Loved One. Lois lost her husband in a hot-air balloon ride accident.
Dr. Robert C. Roberts
Dr. Robert C. Roberts is a distinguished professor of ethics at Baylor University and received his Ph.D. from Yale University in philosophical theology. He is the author of several articles and books, including Spiritual Emotions.
Joyce Rogers, widow of Dr. Adrian Rogers, is a speaker and Bible teacher. She is the author of several books, including Grace for the Widow and Lean Hard on Jesus. www.rejoycewithjoycerogers.com
Phil Sasser is the senior pastor of Sovereign Grace Church in Apex, North Carolina, and director of church governance of Sovereign Grace Ministries. He teaches regularly at the Sovereign Grace Ministries Pastors College in Louisville, Kentucky, and has been in ministry for over three decades. His father passed away.
Dr. Joseph Stowell
Dr. Joseph Stowell is the president of Cornerstone University in Grand Rapids, Michigan, and previously served as the president of the Moody Bible Institute of Chicago for eighteen years. Dr. Stowell is an internationally recognized speaker and the author of Eternity, The Upside of Down: Finding Hope When It Hurts, and other books.
Dr. Siang-Yang Tan
Dr. Siang-Yang Tan is a professor of psychology at Fuller Theological Seminary. He has authored many publications, including Rest and Coping with Depression with John Ortberg. He is the senior pastor of First Evangelical Church Glendale in California. He experienced the death of his father.
Dr. Paul David Tripp
Dr. Paul David Tripp is the president of Paul Tripp Ministries and has authored many books, including Forever and A Shelter in the Time of Storm. He is a professor of pastoral life and care at Redeemer Seminary, Dallas, Texas. Dr. Tripp experienced the death of his father. www.paultripp.com
Dr. Stephen Viars
Dr. Stephen Viars is the pastor and a biblical counselor at Faith Baptist Church and Faith Biblical Counseling Ministries in Lafayette, Indiana. He authored Putting Your Past in Its Place: Moving Forward to Freedom and Forgiveness. He experienced the sudden death of his father.
Dr. Edward T. Welch
Dr. Edward T. Welch is a counselor at the Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation in Glenside, Pennsylvania. His books include Depression: Looking Up from the Stubborn Darkness and When I Am Afraid: A Step-by-Step Guide Away from Fear and Anxiety. His parents passed away. www.ccef.org
James White is the pastor at Christ Our King Community Church in Raleigh, North Carolina. He currently serves as the executive vice president of organizational relations for the YMCA of the Triangle and as a board member for Carver Bible College. James experienced the loss of his parents.
H. Norman Wright
H. Norman Wright is a grief therapist and certified trauma specialist. He is the author of over seventy books, including Experiencing Grief and Recovering from Losses in Life. He experienced the death of his wife and son. www.hnormanwright.com
The late Zig Ziglar, author of Confessions of a Grieving Christian and other books, was a motivational speaker. In Confessions, he relays the story of his journey through grief after the loss of his daughter. He was chairman of the Zig Ziglar Corporation, whose mission is to equip people to more fully utilize their physical, mental, and spiritual resources.
Dr. Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge
Dr. Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge is a licensed clinical psychologist. Her first husband died eighteen years after he was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor. Now remarried to Dr. Robert DeVries, they work together to help people in grief and are coauthors of many books, including Getting to the Other Side of Grief and Traveling through Grief.
“I would have committed suicide had it not been for GriefShare.”
— Robin, Fayetteville, NC
“I am not sure if I understand yet all that GriefShare and you have taught me, but I want you to know that I am now in search for God! I signed up for a Bible study and am attending!”
— Participant, Warrenton, VA
“The caring, encouragement and support I encountered in the group was a balm to my deeply grieving soul.”
— Rose, Cochranville, PA
“Going to GriefShare feels like having warm arms wrapped around you when you’re shivering. At GriefShare, you are safe.”
“What a blessing GriefShare is!!!! It has been an immense help to me.”
“I am thankful to find a group that knows how I feel.”
“It has gotten me through the hardest time of my life.”
“It is a 60-mile round trip for me each way but well worthwhile.”
Saint Louis, MO
“I felt God’s love every week.”
— Juanita, Charlotte, NC
“[I say] thank you, God, for sending me to GriefShare, where love, comfort and understanding in untold measure abide.”
— Loretta, Indian Wells, CA
“I tried to kill myself six times, the last time being six weeks before I came to GriefShare. I would be lying to say those thoughts don’t still creep in, but I have had no active intent or desire other than just a thought. And I would not act on it since I started coming to GriefShare.”
“The GriefShare program in and of itself helped me tremendously. Now I lead GriefShare at my church and am starting my fourth session as a facilitator.”
— Gina, Spring, TX
“The very best thing about GriefShare is that you find out that you’re not crazy and you’re not alone.”